After three pretty depressing posts, let’s change the pace and do a ‘”10 Things I’m Loving” post. I always like doing these and I like reading them when other bloggers write them.

1. Pioneer Woman

I am totally loving Pioneer Woman’s site and blogs right now. I recently discovered her site and I’m hooked. It’s in the Google Reader and it’s one that I read first every day! She’s a city girl who married a real live cowboy and is now living on a working ranch with him and their children. She homeschools and takes fabulous photos and I’m totally fascinated by her life and family! lol Below is one of her photos which links to her Flickr account. Check them out, they are awesome!! She’s self taught too…I wanna take photos like her when I grow up!

2. Gummy Bears

I love gummy anything, but I want to gobble these cute little bears up! I even have gummy vitamins! LOL

3. Cara Cara Oranges

The flesh of these oranges is usually pink or red or a darker orange than navel oranges. They are sweet and delicious and I’ve eaten about 40 of them in the past couple months. YUM!

4. Eclipse Breeze Gum

Best.Gum.Ever! As long as they make this gum I will never buy another gum! It’s minty and has a extra almost fruity hint of something. It’s fresh and lovely.

5. Adobe Photoshop

I love Photoshop! It’s a HUGE monster of a program that can do SO MUCH stuff. I haven’t even scratched the surface, but I am learning every day I use it!

6. Scentsy Tarts and Warmers

I bought a Scentsy tart warmer at a craft show at work. I, of course, got a purple (plum) one, and some foodie scents (Pumpkin Roll, Cutiepie Cupcake, Toasted Caramel Sugar, Warm Apple Pie)…well I plugged it in and OMG it is delicious!! The warmers work with a light bulb instead of a candle and the wax doesn’t evaporate. Very cool! And YUMS!

7. Eminem

I know he’s ridiculous and offensive, but I love me some Eminem! His new song, Not Afraid…omg LOVE IT! With lyrics like, “And I just can’t keep living this way, So starting today, I’m breaking out of this cage. I’m standing up, Imma face my demons. I’m manning up, Imma hold my ground. I’ve had enough, now I’m so fed up. Time to put my life back together right now.” ♥  The song below isn’t Not Afraid, but it’s another favorite…Beautiful.

8. New Mountain Dew Flavors

Well, I like MOST of them…there are 3 – White Out, Typhoon, and Distortion. White Out is kind of like Squirt, but without the kick of Squirt…it tastes like carbonated nothing. But I drink it, cuz it’s non. Typhoon is like a punch, it’s pretty good. And Distortion? YUCK! It’s supposed to be lime, but it’s horrible. I’ve drank maybe ONE and not again! Bluck. But new Dews are exciting and I am STILL addicted. I need a 12 step program. Srsly.

9. Wilderness Lodge @ Walt Disney World

We’re going to Disney World in October and will be staying at the Wildreness Lodge! I am SOOO stinking excited and READY for a vacation! I need a break from life and to just be able to RELAX and have fun. And I cannot wait to take my new camera there for a spin!

10. Lilacs

When I was younger, my sisters and I used to have a “Lilac Festival” whenever the neighbor’s lilacs would be in bloom. We, with the 2 neighbor boys, would pick all or most of the lilacs and parade around the yard with them. We were young and it was fun! lol Lilacs always remind me of that.

Today was better. I didn’t cry. I wan kind of numb actually.

I will be ok though – eventually.

So to the few ppl who I know read my blog, know I’ll be alright. I need to deal and let it sink in a little.

And hang on to hope – at least until July. Then, we’ll see what happens.

Back to our regularly scheduled blog…thanks for reading. Stick around, plz. It will get better.

Laying here in bed, tired as hell but it hurts to close my swollen eyes. I don’t know if my eyes are stinging from being so tired or if they just hurt from crying earlier.
The fresh tears aren’t helping things either.
I like it much better living in the land of make believe where hope and dreams live. This reality world – where hope is lost and one little sentence can cause your whole world to come crashing down around you – sucks.
I just can’t stop thinking about it. How calm he was saying it. How he watched me sob. How what I wanted or had to say didn’t matter.
How I didn’t matter.
I didn’t ask for this life. This caretaker role. This head of household, bring home the bacon role. I didn’t think I’d be the bread winner.
What I did ask for was a conversation about bringing a homeless child into our home for us to care for and love. A conversation.
And what did I get in return?
Hopes and dreams shattered by a single sentence.
4 words that keep ringing through my head – “I don’t want kids.”
Thank you dr whoever and therapist whatshisname. Thank you for determining my future. Thank you for ruining my life.
I need to sleep but the tears keep falling. How am I supposed to go on?
The world of sunshine and roses, of hopes and dreams is long gone. I want to go back in time. Just one stinking day.
I had hope then.
Now? I just have tears and emptiness and a heart beating behind a bandaid ready to be ripped out again.

Well after my complete meltdown over what my husband told me, we talked a little bit and he decided that his “no” decision was made hastily and without research of different options. So he asked that we re-discuss everything in July to give him time to look into things and our different options – adoption or fostering, etc.

While I appreciate his slight change of heart, I do feel like he is only pacifying me, which I don’t want either.

So he ripped my heart from my chest, shoved it back in and put a bandaid over it.

I sure hope he doesn’t rip it back out in July.

I want him to follow his heart and listen to HIMSELF and not two old men who don’t have anything to do with our marriage or lives. If his heart tells him being a daddy isn’t something he wants to do, then we’ll deal with it. But if it does…then (yay!) and let’s start looking into our options.

In the meantime…I’ll be desperately holding on to the tiny ounce of hope that I still have and trying not to shed anymore tears over this.

I see much therapy in my future…which is probably long overdue…and meds.

My husband has a number of autoimmune diseases. We decided to not have kids naturally because we don’t want to pass this monster on to anyone. We decided this together and we both agreed. No problems there.

We didn’t, however, totally rule out children.

Or so I thought.

I’m going to be 36 this month…yeah, the biological clock is ticking away. I ALWAYS have wanted kids. Always. And I always thought I’d adopt kids. I wanted 2 of my own and 2 adopted.

So my husband and I had a short conversation about the whole kids thing…I asked him to “think about it” and then we could talk it over.

Well seems he thought about it and talked to his shrink about it and his therapist about it and decided that he didn’t want to have kids – any kind of kids – because what if he got sicker or was tired during the day and had to take care of a kid.

So basically, he talked to everyone on earth but his WIFE, the person who is involved in this marriage and decision with him…and without even discussing things with me, he’s made this decision FOR me.

WTF

I know getting sick is NOT his fault. I know he had nothing to do with that, but I can’t HELP but feel like he just took away the ONE thing on this earth that I want more than anything. I know it would change things, but I know we’d work it out! Everything works out.

But the decision had been made – for me.

And now I don’t know what to do. I seriously feel like someone ripped my heart out.

Never, in a million years did I think THIS…this life I am living…was it for me. There HAS to be something else. I couldn’t have been put here to care for a sick husband and a house full of crazy, unruly animals.

This just can’t be it. Can it?

I think I need to utilize my blog a bit more so I downloaded the WordPress app for my Crackberry. This is just a test! Hopefully more fun blogs to come!